Definitions get me into a lot of trouble.

Early in my career, I was asked to perform a “feasibility study.”

“What’s the subject?” I asked.

“An inventory system,” my boss answered.

“OK, it’s feasible,” I told him. “I guarantee it. Lots of other companies keep track of their inventories on computers, so it must be.”

More patient than most of the managers I’ve reported to in my career, he explained to me that in IS, a feasibility study doesn’t determine whether something is feasible. It determines whether it’s a good idea or not.

It turned out to be a good idea (a tremendous surprise), so next we analyzed requirements. You know what’s coming: A senior analyst asked me if the requirements were before or after the negotiation.

“What negotiation?” I asked. “These are requirements. They’re required.”

This is how I learned that we do feasibility studies and requirements analyses in part to test the validity of the requests we receive. The process would be unnecessary if we believed end-users were our customers.

At the supermarket, nobody says to a customer, “Those fried pork rinds aren’t an acceptable part of your diet!” or, “Prove you need that ice cream!” At the supermarket, wanting something and being able to pay for it are all that matter.

In IS we used to view end-users as our (internal) customers, and we figured the relationship followed from the role: If they’re our customers, our job is (as Tom Peters would say) to delight them.

End-users aren’t our customers, though. They’re our consumers – they consume our products and services but don’t make buying decisions about them. But does that really change anything, or is it just a useless distinction?

It does change things. “Customer” defines both a role and a relationship. What does “consumer” say about a relationship? Nothing. Or at best, very little.

“Consumer” defines only a role, and in the context of organizational design, role is a process concept, whereas relationship is a cultural one. (Definitions: Processes describe the steps employees follow to accomplish a result. Culture describes their attitudes and the behavior they exhibit in response to their environment.)

What should the relationship between IS and the rest of the business look like? This is one of the most continuously controversial issues in our industry. When you view it as a clash between process design and cultural cues, the reason our discussions are jumbled is more clear.

Defining the rest of the business as our consumers frees us to define whatever relationship works the best. As with my inventory system, every highly successful result I’ve ever seen in IS has been the result of an open collaboration between IS and end-users, with authority shared and the dividing line between the two groups obliterated.

Yet many of my colleagues and much of the correspondence I receive on the subject still advocate a hard dividing line between the two groups, with formally documented “requirements” defined by a small group of end-users and the authority for “technical” decisions reserved for IS.

Of course, purely technical decisions are few and far between these days. What brand of NIC should you buy? OK, that’s a technical decision, but even something as seemingly technical as choosing a server OS places constraints on business choice. Or, looking at the opposite end of the process, selecting a business application limits IS’s choice of operating system, sometimes to a single one.

Trying to partition responsibilities to preserve the prerogatives of one group or the other leads to nothing but bad results. “You have to do this for me because I’m your customer,” and “You can’t do that because it violates our standards,” are two sides of the same counterfeit coin.

There are few purely technical or purely business decisions anymore. Since form follows function, you should strive for a relationship that recognizes this fact. What kind of relationship should you have with your consumers? One that emphasizes joint problem-solving and decision-making, and working together in a collaborative environment.

Or, in a word, “partnership.”

As regular IS Survivalists may recall, in graduate school I researched communication between electric fish.

This involved me in many stimulating discussions of how to define communication … because after all, how can you research something when you don’t know what it is?

Back then, the standard sociobiological definition of communication was behavior on the part of one entity … the sender … that changes the behavior of another entity (the receiver).

It isn’t communication unless it changes the behavior of the recipient. Electric fish understand this. Do you?

Companies squander a lot of effort because somewhere between figuring things out and explaining the answer, many employees mistake their responsibilities. They think their job is done when they provide the information.

It isn’t, of course. There’s little more pathetic than a thick report in a three-ring binder, ignored and gathering dust on a shelf.

Your job isn’t done until your target has both understood your message and taken action on it. That action is the change in behavior on their part that proves communication has happened, validating your efforts.

What are the steps to effective communication?

1. Understand your audience. If it’s one executive, do everything you can to determine his or her “hot buttons”: Key motivators, personal and organizational goals, likes and dislikes. If it’s a small group, analyze each member this way. If it’s a large group, divide it into categories and profile each category.

2. Determine your key messages. You know way too much about this subject, and you’re going to be tempted to explain everything you know. Resist the temptation. What you have to say is the center of your cosmos, but it’s just one asteroid in your audience’s solar system. Choose no more than five key messages (three is better). If you can’t winnow your list down that far, you need to pull back to a higher-level perspective.

3. Choose your medium. Your key messages and knowledge about your audience’s preferred communication styles should determine the medium. “They should read their e-mail,” is about as useful as any other choice that substitutes how things should be for how they actually are. If your audience is an executive who wants to look you in the eye, make sure you meet face-to-face. And even though you “… like to scribble on the whiteboard while I’m talking,” … that’s your preference. If your audience will reject your message because whiteboard-scrawling connotes lack of preparation, stuff your preference in the closet and prepare a formal PowerPoint presentation. Or vice versa.

4. Use formatting to reinforce your message. When you communicate face-to-face, your vocal intonation and body language deliver as much information as your words. In memos and reports, intonation and body language aren’t available to you. That’s what formatting is for — to substitute for them. You know what your key messages are. How are you going to make sure the reader remembers them?

The act of formatting helps you think things through. Deciding what to bold or italicize, what to put in a bulleted or numbered list, what to separate into a sidebar, what to illustrate through a chart or graphic … or in PowerPoint, whether and how to animate a graphic or bulleted list, and what to put into a “kicker box” at the bottom … these decisions help you think through your message.

Carefully chosen formatting can have another benefit: It constitutes “meta-communication” — communication about the communication. It says you’ve thought through your communication instead of just blurting everything out. That’s a good message to send.

Ever receive an e-mail whose author couldn’t be bothered to capitalize the first letter of a sentence, or to break the message into multiple paragraphs?

Me too. This kind of if-you-can’t-say-it-in-pure-ASCII “anti-formatting” sends a message of its own: That the author’s attitude was, “Here’s everything I want to say,” and not, “Here’s what I think you’ll find interesting enough to remember.”

Complaining about feature-bloat is a popular pastime in some circles. Go ahead if you enjoy it. Me … I’ll use every technique I can to communicate. There’s too much information floating around as it is.